Xtykutl

I want to save data in mongo collection if data already not present, that can be checked by some fields.
I think I can't use mongo save() or insert() so I moved to mongo update() with upsert: true.

the query that is fired is :

const query = {

            $and: [

                { invitationTo: { $ne: some.invitationTo } },

                { invitationBy: { $ne: some.invitationBy } },

                { listingId: { $ne: some.listingId } }

            ]

}

const options = {

            upsert: true

}

db.contactRequests.update(query, contactRequestsVal, options)

I am not having a luck here. Suggest me the proper way of doing this if possible in a single query.
The collection contactRequests contains:

    invitationTo: {

        type: mongoose.Schema.Types.ObjectId,

        ref: 'users'

    },

    invitationBy: {

        type: mongoose.Schema.Types.ObjectId,

        ref: 'users'

    },

    listingId: {

        type: mongoose.Schema.Types.ObjectId,

        ref: 'listings'

    },

    message: {

        type: String,

        required: true

    },

    attachment: {

        type: String

    }